Last Sunday in Relief Society we had quite an intresting lesson. Well, actually Emerald always decides to cry at the beginning until the end so I miss most of relief society, but last week I heard about 5 minuets worth of lesson. So...it was an interesting 5 minutes worth. The lesson was about strengthening families. They were discussing how one could not have a strong family without having a strong marriage. And one cannot have a strong marriage without a strong relationship with God. So our priorities should first be God, then our marriage, and then our family. It seems often in our society, or atleast I do, focus so much on the needs of our children we forget the needs of our husbands (or wives). Since having a strong marriage is so important I thought I'd make a list of ways to strengthen a marriage. Good concrete ways you can check off.
1. Weekly dates- Some say Mc Dondalds doesn't count but to me it does (mainly because our dates are to the grocery store...) You don't have to spend any money at all. A walk could count. Just spend time together with your significant other. The same way you did before you were married.
2.Gratitude Journal- Write a journal everyday about 1 good quality of your "other". That way you are constantly looking for their good, and when they do something wrong you have a long list of things they do right.
3.Never talk bad about the other in front of ANYONE! Not friends, parents, neighbors, ect.
4. Companionship Inventory- Every week discuss what is going right, wrong, feelings, concerns, ect.
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Very good advice. Ben and I don't get out for regular dates alone, but we do often watch Simpsons together at night. Usually we watch our own DvDs and since we know them all by heart we laugh at the right moments and spend the rest of the time talking about stuff. To me that counts as a date because I don't have to stress about getting the kids to bed on time or setting up a babysitter. It is nice to get out every now and then for a nice date alone though.
Totally those count as dates Rebekah. McDonalds is wonderful if kids aren't there. You can REALLY feel the difference.
I like your rules Amber, especially about the one about never talking badly about them. There is one more rule that I think is way important. Don't argue in front of other people or share your disputes with other people. Those observing will take someones side and then it becomes a matter of who is right and who is wrong instead of trying to find a solution that makes you both happy. I think I am going to copy your blog idea!
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